If you ask someone to name their favorite musical artist, top three foods, even just a good memory from the past, they will tend to come up with examples from their teenage years. Why are teenage memories so vivid, and what does this mean?
This week, I spoke with Lucy Maddox, child psychologist, researcher, and author of the new book Blueprint: How Our Childhood Makes Us Who We Are.
She explains that, when we look back later on, teenage memories can seem bigger than others because we often try many things for the first time during the teenage years and our first experience with something can be very heightened.
Of course, social experiences are also heightened during the teenage years. Lucy reveals what you should teach your teen about friendships and relationships.
That’s the subject of this week’s episode. The 22-minute public version is free to listen to, and the 36-minute extended version, packed with extra goodies, is reserved for site members. Log in or sign up to access everything our site has to offer!
2 Word-for-Word Scripts
from this Episode:
1. When your teen wants to break the rules, affirm their autonomy but hold firm
“Sure, you can use your phone whenever you want. As soon as your room is clean, like we agreed. You’re 14 now so I can’t physically force you to do anything but those are the rules. As an adult I don’t have to go to work. But if I don’t, there will be consequences. So I’m going to treat you like an adult and leave the final decision up to you.”
1 Script HIDDEN…
A consultant clinical psychologist, lecturer, and writer, Lucy has lectured and developed content for a range of universities on topics like adolescence, psychological interventions for self-harm, psychosis, compassion fatigue in the helping professions, neuroimaging in the media, and a variety of other topics.
Lucy has always been interested in science communication and she enjoys writing about science for the general public. She has written for a range of publications including The Guardian, Prospect, Mosaic, and Science magazine. She blogs as Psychology Magpie and for Huffington Post. Her book, Blueprint: How Our Childhood Makes Us Who We Are, was released in March 2018.
Find Lucy on Twitter.