Ep. 61: Is Your Teen’s Brain-Body Type Causing Problems?
Dr. Robert Keith Wallace, author of Dharma Parenting and an expert in the physiology-psychology connection, joins us for a lively discussion on how your teen’s (and your) brain-body type may be affecting your relationship. Dr. Wallace clues us into the scientifically backed Ayurvedic doshas – vata, pitta, and kapha – and how to deal with each type.
Full Show Notes
It seems like there’s always one teen that causes more trouble than the other. All it takes is some small comment or request and she flies into a rage!
But this doesn’t happen with her siblings – so what gives? Is something just wrong with the way her brain and body are built?
According to Dr. Robert Keith Wallace, author of Dharma Parenting: Understand Your Child’s Brilliant Brain for Greater Happiness, Health, Success, and Fulfillment, maybe so. But it’s not anything “wrong”!
On this week’s episode, Dr. Wallace and I dive into the principles in his book, based on the Ayurvedic doshas, an ancient Indian practice which has since found a basis in science. It turns out, some people are literally wired differently – down in their DNA – which can make them run a bit hot or cold, or even a bit slow!
Dr. Wallace is an expert in brain-body connections and has some excellent tips on how to spot and stop triggers that may be tripping up your teen…and you! In addition to learning the three main brain-body types, you will discover:
- How pitta, vata, and kapha teens and parents may interact
- The power of “coaching” your teen in addition to parenting
- The 6 Cs to mentally whip through during any argument to cool things down
- The importance of teaching teens to make routines…and helping them shake things up when they need it!
Dr. Wallace and I had such an interesting conversation and I’m so excited to share this episode with our subscribers and listeners!
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Word-for-word examples of WHAT to say to your teen
1. Rather than dictating solutions, try becoming your teen’s coach:
“What do you think might help you break that habit?”
-Dr. Robert Keith Wallace
Step-by-step guides for applying the ideas from this interview
1. The Power of Positive Attention:
One thing Dr. Wallace was adamant about in our interview was giving teens and kids the right kind of attention— i.e. positive and supportive attention! Dr. Wallace hammered home that negative attention literally is setting up bad wiring in the brain.
One way in which he suggested parents could start to add more positive attention to their relationship with their teens is to recognize your teen’s progress. Recognizing your teens progress has the added benefit of creating a feedback loop that rewards your teen for making gains in that area. This could be as simple as once a month acknowledging how much more mature your teen is getting. Or if they are involved in a sport, you could recognize how much they’ve improved since the beginning of last season.
To get started, first write down all the activities your teen is involved in over the course of the year. Jot down any subjects you know they are in as well. Pick ten that you know your teen cares about. For each one come up with a specific “progress compliment” you could say to your teen in the coming weeks. Lastly, schedule a weekly reminder to tell, text, email, message, whatever(!) your teen that progress recognition!
2. The 6 Cs to Turn Around Any Argument:
About Robert Keith Wallace
Dr. R. Keith Wallace received his Doctorate in physiology from UCLA and followed it up with a prestigious fellowship at Harvard University. His research on physiology and its connection to consciousness has been published in prestigious academic journals as well as Science, American Journal of Physiology, and Scientific American.
Additionally, Dr. Wallace is a speaker, and has toured all over the globe to deliver lectures on his work. He is the founding President of the Maharishi University of Management in Fairfield, Iowa, and currently serves as a Trustee, Co-Dean, and Professor and Department Chairman at Maharishi.
Dr. Wallace and his wife raised 4 kids of their own, which has made Dr. Wallace keenly aware of the mischief kids and teens get into!