Teenagers and Self Motivation
Ned and Bill, the authors of The Self-Driven Child, discuss the difficulties of getting teens motivated about things like homework. They provide a useful framework for helping teens develop self-motivation and self-sufficiency in their lives.
Full Show Notes
Ned Johnson is an elite SAT tutor who specializes in developing self motivation for students who are preparing to take important exams. William Stixrud is a leading neuropsychologist, professor, and expert on the adolescent brain.
Together, they wrote an incredible book called The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives.
This week on the podcast I interviewed Ned and Bill about how parents can help teenagers develop self motivation.
Developing Self Motivation
Ultimately, these experts stress that there are certain areas where most parents should actually be giving teens more freedom and others where most parents already need to be giving less. Bill and Ned break those down and explain how to use “collaborative problem solving” to impose stricter rules.
Also, they reveal how to teach teens things and give teens advice in a way that they will accept. In order to teach teens how to develop self motivation you have to get past their defenses and that requires perfect timing. Learn how to make sure it happens just right.
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1. Get your teen to put together a plan for their life by offering more responsibility
“You know I think there are probably things I’ve been doing or decisions I’ve been making for you. Are there things you know right now that you’d really like to be in charge of, where I’m kind of doing it too much for you? And maybe we can make some lists of things you’d like to be in charge of. But to help me feel safer with this, because this is a process for me too, I will feel so much safer letting you drive the car of your life if you can tell me what your plan is for all of these things and I won’t have this movie in my head if you going all Thelma and Louise and driving the thing right off the cliff. If I can articulate all the things I’m anxious about and together–mostly you–we can figure out that #yougotthis it’ll make it easier for me to step back a little bit.”
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About Ned and Bill
This week, our podcast guest is a duo! William Stixrud and Ned Johnson are the authors of The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives.
Ned is the founder of PrepMatters, a tutoring service in Washing DC, and the co-author of Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Teens Overcome the Pressure and Succeed.
A sought-after speaker and teen coach for study skills, parent-teen dynamics, and anxiety management, his work has been featured on NPR, NewsHour, U.S. News & World Report, Time, The Washington Post, and The Wall Street Journal.
William is a clinical neuropsychologist at The Stixrud Group and a faculty member at Children’s National Medical Center and George Washington University Medical School.
He lectures widely on the adolescent brain, meditation, and the effects of stress, sleep deprivation, and technology overload on the brain. He has published several influential scientific articles and is on the board of the David Lynch Foundation.