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Resolving Conflicts with Teens

Resolving Conflicts with Teens

October 28, 2017 Podcast Episodes 0

Episode Summary

Lianna Tsangarides, a family therapist and leading expert in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Let’s face it: conflict is a way of life when you have a teenager in the house. They can often seem to be Jedi Masters at turning every small thing into an argument. But in this episode, Lianna Tsangarides points out that there are also significant inner conflicts that teens are struggling to deal with. Lianna teaches us how you can reduce this external type of conflict as a parent by understanding more about the inner type of conflict.

Full Show Notes

Let’s face it: conflict is a way of life when you have a teenager in the house. They can often seem to be Jedi Masters at turning every small thing into an argument. But in this episode, Lianna Tsangarides points out that there are also significant inner conflicts that teens are struggling to deal with. For instance, on one hand they want independence and autonomy but on the other hand they still need help from their parents.

Lianna teaches us how you can reduce this external type of conflict as a parent by understanding more about the inner type of conflict.

She works through a specific example of how you could handle a conflict with a teenager and explains that there are different levels of validation. To stop conflict in its tracks, use the deepest level of validation at the start of an important conversation.

Word-for-Word Scripts

1. How to slow things down when your teen is acting really intense

“I hear this is really important to you. I want to give it the time and the thought that it deserves. I’m going to get back to you. And I’m really glad you came and talked to me about this.”

Lianna Tsanangarides

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About Lianna Tsangarides

A practicing therapist in Connecticut, Lianna specializes in working with people who are struggling with negative self-talk. She is a leading expert in a therapeutic technique called Dialectical Behavior Therapy, or DBT, which focuses on teaching people the skills to handle conflicting thoughts and feelings.

In addition, Lianna is a blogger who writes truly exceptional posts about how to use DBT skills to deal with these types of conflicts in our own lives. One of my favorites is called Stop Walking on Eggshells Around Your Teen: The Three C’s of Parenting.

You can also find Lianna on Twitter here.