Ep 2: Getting Yourself in the Right Space
J. Brown, host of the “Yoga Talks” podcast, blogger, and founder of his own yoga studio talks about how parents can get themselves into a more open, receptive state before jumping into an important conversation with a teenager. These tactics are sure to improve your next conversation.
Full Show Notes
As parents, we tend to worry about our teens when we’re preparing for an important talk. We worry that they won’t understand what we are trying to communicate. That they will be distracted by their smartphones and social media accounts. That they simply won’t care enough to listen.
But we don’t often worry about ourselves.
How can parents get into a more open, receptive state before jumping into an important conversation? What can we do to make sure that we are centered and present? That we don’t overreact? That we’re perceptive enough to ask the right questions?
In this episode of the Talking to Teens Podcast, I sat down with J. Brown to discuss these issue along with many other helpful topics. A world-renowned yoga and meditation teacher with a popular blog and podcast, J. Brown blew me away with the insight and wisdom of many of his remarks and recommendations. From general life principles to specific strategies for centering yourself before an important talk with your teenager, we found a lot to talk about in this interview.
Step-by-step guides for applying the ideas from this interview
1. Plan Your Preparation for Your Next Important Talk:
Write down some different things you could do before the next important talk with your teenager in order to get yourself in the right state. During his interview, J suggested some breathing or moving exercises but you can do anything that works. I often like going for a walk to clear my head. Maybe you love music and it would center you to listen to a song or two. Brainstorm a list of 5-10 possible strategies you could use then circle the three that excite you the most. Commit to trying one before each of your next three important parent-teen conversations to see what works best. Then tweak as necessary. BONUS: I had a class in college where the professor led us in a breathing exercise every period and it really started things off with a great vibe. Could you possibly do one of your centering exercises along with your teenager?
2. Practice Oojai Breathing to Calm Yourself Down:
3. Overcome Your Snap Judgements:
4. Engage in a Collaborative Activity with Your Teen:
About J. Brown
For more than fifteen years, J. Brown has been developing techniques to teach people how to practice yoga in a deeper and more fulfilling way. He is also a well known writer, having been featured in Yoga Therapy Today, the International Journal of Yoga Therapy, Elephant Journal, and Yogadork.
J. Brown came to yoga by way of his mother’s death from Leukemia when he was 16. Reconciling that loss, and wanting to be free from the crippling grief and disillusionment that came with it, fueled his passion for learning to make himself well.
J studied with renowned teachers such as Alison West and Richard Freeman in the States before heading to India to continue his training. There, he learned that yoga practice was not a linear progression towards some unknown thing, but rather a process of learning how to take care of oneself. Back in NY, J stopped going to regular group classes and devoted himself to a self-practice, ultimately finding his way to an entirely therapeutic orientation.
After spending more than a decade as a popular teacher at various schools in Manhattan and Brooklyn, J founded Abhyasa Yoga Center in Brooklyn, NY. He starting blogging at www.jbrownyoga.com and created a highly successful podcast called “Yoga Talks”. He broadcasts his classes to the world and has produced a series of DVDs, streaming videos, and meditation recordings, all of which are available on his website.