Your teen wants to stand out and be recognized while dominating others and gaining status. Also, he doesn't mind if he ruffles a few feathers along the way--yours included!
When he’s faced with choices between his three Core Needs, your teen tends to pick Power and Independence over Love. This combination causes your teen to hunger for authority while also fiercely resisting being told what to do. Because Winners are lowest in Love, they can easily be mean or hurtful to others.
In popular culture, Donald Trump is an example of The Winner. So is Elon Musk. They don't care whether you like them or not, but they definitely care if you're standing in their way. They hate to lose and they hate being told "no".
They can be exceptionally productive when they are given autonomy, resources, and a competitive problem that excites them. However, these kinds of situations can be difficult to come by during the teenage years. This can leave Winner teens struggling to get their needs met, and that's where problem behavior can emerge.
Your teen craves Power. But not just any kind of Power. He wants free and autonomous Power. He wants to have the final say on things that affect others, without anybody telling him what to do.
Most often, problem behavior for Winner teens involves manipulating other people. They want to get their way and they will do what it takes to win. They often even take pleasure in making their parents mad. It's a way of controlling you. Winners also might get into intense conflicts with other children online or offline.
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